Nice Philanderers?

It must, by definition, be impossible to have an affair with a nice person.

Because if they were nice, they would say, "Yes I feel so much love for you too, but you must, must, must go back to your spouse - have counselling; do everything you can to keep the family together; do not betray your spouse nor your children. As I must not betray mine.  No, I just must not, cannot, even allow myself kiss you.  It would be wrong of me. Go now, go, and we need never speak of this again."

Having an affair means that you must both behave dishonourably and dishonestly. 

Your new love is flawed right from the beginning. And as a result, although obviously some work out OK for everybody involved, for most it would seem that the 'happy ever after' is an unlikely proposition. 

Personally I tend to go for 'dumpees' rather than 'dumpers'.  Dumpees seem to have a more steady neddy, sanguine approach to life; making the most of what is, and putting up with things, rather than expecting the grass always to be greener, and jumping.

I am probably just incredibly naive. But all this seems common sense to me.

Answers on a postcard please!